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On Claiming Your Freedom

by P. Braithwaite

Freedom is one of my core values – I’ve designed a life that allows me to put my spirituality and my creativity first. I wake up, meditate, and write before anything else. I live alone in what honestly feels like a sanctuary (in NYC!). I splash my thoughts on the Internet with no fear of losing my day job. I’m living the life of my childhood dreams. Eleven year old Patia would be proud.

Yet, lately, I feel confined.

I think it started when I decided to become a life coach. The decision catapulted me into this entrepreneurial fast lane. Business plans, branding, and strategy rattled in my head. I was taking coaching classes, meeting people who were on the same path, and pulling collaborations out of my butt.

Not to mention – these coaching concepts are designed to stretch and grow you. I was analyzing and life coaching myself. Suddenly, it seemed in ordered to be a life coach, I had to be a different kind of writer. I should stop whimpering and start giving punchy and quick advice. I should be writing about “5 Tips to Be Happy Right Now” instead of “This is How We Ruined My Last Relationship. HOORAY!” I should monetize my writing by focusing on print magazines. I felt pressure to be anything other than a mess, but the mess is where all my power lies.

And so the writing slowed.
And then the writing trickled.
And then it all-together stopped.

When the writing stops – everyone around me feels my wrath.

I will never be the kind of writer that I was taught to be in J-school. I’ll never be the fiction writer my thesis advisor thinks I am. I’ll never be Martha Beck, or Marie Forleo or Joel Osteen. I’ll never be objective, authoritative, or pristine.

But when I’m free, everything else works out.

My point is simple: The path to freedom is doing what FEELS RIGHT. Because what feels right is right, even if it’s scary and even if you’re doing what feels right…alone. Be who you really are. Love what you really do, and…trust, the rest will fall into place.

That’s what I’m doing. What are you up to today?




Quickie: Silence and Seeing Ourselves Clearly

by P. Braithwaite

“Unfortunately, in seeing ourselves as we truly are, not all that we see is beautiful and attractive. This is undoubtedly part of the reason we
flee silence. We do not want to be confronted with our hypocrisy,
our phoniness. We see how false and fragile is the false self we project.
We have to go through this painful experience to come to our true self.
It is a harrowing journey, a death to self—the false self—and no one
wants to die. But it is the only path to life, to freedom, to peace, to true love. And it begins with silence. We cannot give ourselves in love
if we do not know and possess ourselves. This is the great value of silence.
It is the pathway to all we truly want.”

M. Basil Pennington

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Quickie: A Happy Quote About Silence (and Death)

by P. Braithwaite

“This silence, this moment, every moment, if it’s genuinely inside you, brings what you need. There’s nothing to believe. Only when I stopped believing in myself did I come into this beauty. Sit quietly, and listen for a voice that will say, ‘Be more silent.’ Die and be quiet. Quietness is the surest sign that you’ve died. Your old life was a frantic running from silence. Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking. Live in silence.”


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