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Operation FALL in love: BloggerEmme’s Last Post

by BLOGGERemme

Week Seven – Woo hoo!!! Finally I am at the end of my journey. I have arrived whole, strong, harmonious and powerful. I am here, further connected to myself and my spirituality after getting close to the depths of my soul.

Major Lessons Learned:

This journey has allowed me to grow and expand spiritually. I can truly say that I have embraced all aspects of me, including my vulnerability, the vulnerability that researcher and storyteller Brené Brown speaks of in On Vulnerability.

This journey that Marley and I embarked on, rocked me to the core but left me more aware, better prepared, more patient, in an amazing space of strength, and celebrating myself. Through this personal passage, I was able to take stock of the fears that I had and have, and learn how to deconstruct them. Life checked my integrity for quality assurance. I let go of the past and that which no longer serves me. My intuition is steadily used to help me move through all aspects of life and I am enjoying the shift in perspective of a ‘me’ to ‘we’ mentality. One of the changes that particularly brings a smile to my face is that I have made room for my passions, especially love. Not above all of my beautiful shifts, but still very important, through these last seven weeks I have set an intention on patiently, finding the man of my dreams.

I am love. I am ready. I am me!

Have I found my “One”? No not yet, but I am much better prepared for us to feel and experience each other when we arrive in each other’s life.

I love to share. I love to share my thoughts, my material goods, my food, my experience, my life. Sharing is a form of education. I shine when I share. On further thinking of a quote by Eckhart Tolle, presented in Week Seven, “Your task is not to search for love but to find a portal through which love can enter.”  I realized that sharing is my portal. As I share me. He will get to know me. As he gets to know me, he will share himself. Through this we will get to know each other and know quickly that love lies within each of us for the other.

Living a Charmed Life:

I once told my brother-from-another-mother that he lives a charmed life. That applies to me too. I live a life that I choose. That which I truly want, I have or experience. It is filled with beauty, love, health and wealth.  Soon my charmed life will be shared with my husband.

My husband,  the man in my dreams, hasn’t changed. His essence stills draws me closer and our souls still dance at night.

I have changed. I am the Big O and so is he.


My mom has always said that I can find any reason to party. She’s right. To celebrate all the lessons learned from the relationships of my past. To honor those relationships and the valuable insights received. To celebrate the old emme and truly welcome the new, I want to have a quick dance party with one of my new favorite songs and video, Losing You by Solange. My party has my friends and my exes and everyone is on four-wheeled skates, rolling to the beat. My dance syncs with the beat of my desire and I sing along on my imaginary microphone.

Thank you for following me on my path to Calling in my “One”. Whatever journey you embark on, I hope that I have given you some thoughts to take with you.

‘A bit of advice given to a young Native American at the time of his initiation:

“As you go the way of life, you will see a great chasm.


It is not as wide as you think.”’

– Joseph Campbell



Follow my journey.

Calling in “The One” [or] How I Met My Husband | BLOGGERemme: Starting the Course | Preparing for Love: It’s All About Me | Rough Waters | Calling in “The One” or Six Flags Sans Amusement | BLOGGERemme: Week Four and My Fortification | BLOGGERemme: Former Commitment-Phobe | BLOGGERemme: Don’t Choke the Baby

BLOGGERemme: Week Four and My Fortification

by BLOGGERemme

A few months ago, I had attended a seminar about realizing my life’s dream. During that time something registered within me that I would call a baby epiphany. For some time I had been trying to cultivate my practice of visualization and had been “struggling” with how I thought it was to occur versus what I was doing. I had started going down the off-road (for me) that it should have been a concentrated effort versus being effortless. Leading up to that evening at the seminar I had begun feeling good about visualizing the life that I am living and will continue to live, but the way I was doing it didn’t seem truly authentic. I was missing a physical connection to my vision or a sense of being one with it. It felt too contrived.

I have been meditating for a number of years now and when I truly go deep I feel a sense of immersion into everything that is, my surroundings, my thoughts, my breath, etc. When I come out of my meditation I only then realize where and how I was during the meditation. I always felt like visualization should be like that; like a deep meditation.

During the seminar we were asked to speak aloud our reason for attending. Immediately what came to my mind was that I had been visualizing my whole life in the form of daydreams. I always daydreamed about the life I wanted and would live. I always became one with my dreams and felt them throughout me. It dawned on me then that I had been visualizing I just never called it that.

I use my daydreams all the time as I feel the strongest connection to what I visualize in an awake state. My daydreams always give me a sense of direction in regard to my deepest desires and even my fears.

Visualization helps me to set my intention for my life.

Setting an intention is quite different then setting a goal. I have a daily goal in life, which is to be happy. I normally reach that goal. I have a life goal, which is also to be happy. Currently, I am happy in life and it shows. How I am able to reach my goal is because of the intention that I have set.

Katherine Woodward-Thomas, gives us four steps to setting an intention but first I think it important to discuss what intention means. Oxford Dictionary says that an intention is, “an aim or a plan.” Merriam-Webster Dictionary adds, “resolve” and “significance” to the definition. What I think best describes intention comes from Sextrology: The Astrology of Sex and Sexes by Starsky & Cox. There’s a passage where they are describing the Leo man.

…“I will,” desire and determination being conjoined in that creed.

And that to me is intention. Having and stating my desire layered with determination allows me to sit firmly in that which I intend to do. I will. It allows me to take the necessary action towards my aim and live out my plan. I will.

My husband is with me in all of my daydreams and Calling in “The One” is part of the intention that I set over one month ago to prepare myself for him. My daydreams incorporate the life that I want to live: a full life where I am with my husband and we are surrounded by our loving family and our great friends. I live a life of leisure; where I have a fulfilling creative business that affords me my time to travel and be with the amazing people in my life. Setting an intention allows me to live my daydreams.

Katherine starts off Week Four with the beautiful word ‘Congratulations,’ and rightfully so. If you have been following my journey thus far, I would like to say thank you for being with me as I call in my “One”. I have passed what I hope will be the hardest part, which is completing the past and so I celebrated entering Week 4 as ‘Congratulations’ were in order.

There was a marked shift for me in Week Three, that I was still processing as I started this week’s course. Initially I did not fully appreciate and revel in the expression of joy of progress and completion offered. I actually only celebrated both internally and externally when I maintained being in integrity. That was a tangible yet intangible experience, which helped me to see the progress that I had made and the positive internal shifts that had settled. That was the point in which I thought, “Go me!”

The battle to maintain my integrity forced a face-off between my old ways that were no longer serving me and immediately putting into practice the life that I was designing and truly wanting to live. That battle reminded me of my internal strength. That battle reminded me that it could be hard now or even harder later to deal with actively making these decisions that will shape my world.

Me claiming my integrity, in concert with my daydreams and the intentions that I set, helped me to move from Week Four fortified, open, aware and calm.

I will.

What do you will? What intentions have you set? How do you day dream? Join in on the conversation by leaving a comment.



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Rough Waters

by BLOGGERemme

Week Two, the week of completion. This week’s work was rough for me. While Week One looked to level set, Week Two looked to check and reinforce my foundation. How? Well, in a theoretical sense, easily. Here are the steps. I have to be:

  • Prepared to lose something to gain something
  • Prepared to forgive and let go of the past
  • Able to discard toxic elements from my life
  • Able to let go of former commitments, even those that are forgotten

Easy…no?! What do I want to gain? The man of my dreams. To this end, what am I willing to lose, let go of, or give up for my desire? I think of myself as a woman with not many needs or desires; just simple ones that have a strong link to quality (thanks mom). Initially, as I was reading this lesson I was drawing a blank on what would give up and then Katherine Woodward-Thomas put forth an example that registered. A woman that regarded herself, similarly as I regard myself, as strong and independent realized that

“She had to allow herself to give up the emotional armor she’d grown so used to, becoming more vulnerable and undefended than ever before.”

If I want to be in a lifelong partnership, I have to give up my solo outlook on life as well as my ‘emotional armor.’ This is not to say that I will be the stereotype of a woman from yesteryear without her own identity or allowing myself to be too vulnerable, quite the opposite. For me it means taking that ah-ha moment from Week One’s lesson on making space and applying it to the majority of my life. I had a moment where I was hanging clothes in my closet and realized that I would be seeing men’s clothing in my closet soon. That my home, would become our home and be peppered with elements of us not just me. That my life would still be ‘my life’ but would also be ‘our lives’. To get the man of my dreams I have to incorporate the idea of him into my world. Letting go of the past for me has largely been about forgiveness of what others have done to me and about forgiving myself for what I have done to others. Through this journey I became able to articulate that I need to forgive myself of what I have ‘done’ to myself and move on! I need to forgive myself of the former self-doubt and self-criticism, the former thoughts that my ideas were blah or just okay, the former ideology of only planning versus allowing and putting into action many elements of my life. I am realizing how hard I am on myself and I really need to just love myself more and be kinder to myself. Letting go of the past is allowing me to step into my current mindset. How have you completed the past? What are you willing to let go of to gain what you want?

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