Quickie: Does he [she] deserve you?

by P. Braithwaite

So here’s a recap: I’m writing an entire book under the premise that how a man sees god will give insight into his romantic relationship, but if I had to narrow down the most important question to ask a potential suitor it would be this: Do you deserve me?

It’s such a simple question, but if I look back at my relationship graveyard, 94% of the men at some point looked me in the face and said, “I don’t deserve you.”

Man o man, I should’ve believed them. Anyway, I think “Do you deserve me,” the deepest question anyone could ever ask a potential lover because (generally speaking) we keep what we feel we deserve and discard what we don’t.

Think about it: If you believe you deserve something, you fight for it, you cherish it, you protect it, and you nurture it.

If you don’t believe you deserve something you can’t look at it without feeling shame, you don’t truly believe it is yours, you might give it away freely, and (most commonly) YOU SABATOGE IT.

Any man who has ever looked at me and uttered the words “I don’t deserve you,” invariably proved himself right.

And so, if there was any indicator/marker of potential relationship success, I’d say that it lay in that question. “Do you deserve me?”

Try it on your partner. I’m currently running the experiment myself. It’s too soon to know the end, but either way — the answers are pretty interesting.

Are there any other dating questions we absolutely HAVE to ask?

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