God/Man Theory Revisited

by P. Braithwaite

I am writing this post from a street corner in Brooklyn, more specifically,  the corner of Park Place and Franklin Avenue. I have just passed 637 Park place, an apartment building that was,  a few weeks ago, the scene of a violent crime. The windows at 637 are open and gospel music flows through them. The music, Kirk Franklin, makes me want to cry. Last week there was a pink sign on the door filled with messages for a dead woman. Today, life and music float through an open window.

Across the street, two uniformed cops chat with each other while an overweight girl jumps rope. It’s dark out, but cars are whizzing by and conversations swirl around me. Of course it’s Brooklyn, so yes, it smells like garbage, and, yes, there’s probably a crackhead nearby, but, in these moments I think of God, free from any dogma or religion — just this awesome universal energy that flows thru us and around us.

I mention all of this to provide a little insight. Yes, I have this theory that how men see God can give us insight into how he will treat his romantic relationships, but here’s what else you should know:

1. There are no value judgements here: I’m writing this book based on my crackpot theory, but I’m in no way arguing that religious men are better partners. In fact my experience has taught me otherwise. Just because a man acknowledges (or worships) some convention of God doesn’t mean he makes a better mate than, say, an atheist.

2. I believe that we are all seeking some semblance of heaven on earth: Said simply, we all just want to be happy. By that standard, we are all guilty of imposing and projecting some of our unrealistic ideals onto our mates. So here’s how my belief works:  If a man, for example, believes in a judgmental and vengeful God, he might try, in an effort to create his own personal heaven, to push his partner into playing that role in his life.

3. I am here to learn: More than wanting to prove my theory, I want to learn and expand from the stories and ideas of others. I really work hard to eliminate judgements and preconceived notions. I’m here only to listen and grow.

Hope I’ve made things a bit clearer. I don’t want anyone to think I’m on this journey with a huge bias. (Tho, admittedly, I might be a little hard on fundamentalist Christians…Trust me, I’m working on that.)