The best part about starting this blog is that it forces me to talk about my project. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but it’s really hard for me to speak intelligently (and/or confidently) about the work I’m doing.
That said, I’ve had all sorts of interesting conversations with men about God. Granted people tend to misinterpret my topic or impose their own views on it, but nonetheless, I’ve been able to chit chat with some interesting folks.
At one of my many jobs, I spend time with a brilliant history professor who has an interest in the bible. He has had frantic discussions with me where he talks about the inability of the English language to capture the true intention of the bible. I find his point (and his enthusiasm) intoxicating, and I often go home thinking about what he has said.
His most recent assertion is this: men trying to be close to God actually find themselves further way from women.
He proves his points with references to Moses and Orthodox Jewish men, and even when I’ve tried to tell him that I am writing a narrative non-fiction piece focused primarily on modern men of all denominations, he still persists.
“Go look at the creation story,” he says. “When Eve eats the apple, what does God do?”
“He accuses her,” I reply.
“Right and she blames the serpent.” He nods. “And who does Adam blame?”
“Eve,” I shoot back, matter-of-factly.
“Not quite,” the history professor proclaims. “He blames God.”
“Go home and check your bible,” he adds. “it’s all there.”
I went home to check my bible and sure enough, Adam says “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”
So this phrase “you put here with me,” is interesting. In this small phrase it seems that Adam blames god for faulty manufacturing. It seems to shout, “You sent me bad merchandise.” Although we all know the
bible can be interpreted 86,000 ways, I can se the History Professor’s point. So, what does this have to do with men, god and relationships?
Well, for me, there is something ballsy about Adam standing up to God. This says all of the usual stuff about women being the root of all evil, but it also says something about the relationship b/w Adam and God. If Adam can say “the woman you sent me effed shit up” doesn’t it seem like he isn’t afraid of God?
It would seem that Adam and God were equals. Where is the fear and trembling?
I’ve always maintained that there is something really significant about the fact that we all accept God is a
“he.” and I think this attitude of sameness is something that has to carry over in male female relationships. Eve didn’t try that shit. She blamed the serpant.
I’m not sure how, but I’m definitely working on trying to find out how this “he-God” thing manifests in relationships. And, of course, I’ll keep posting my interesting conversations with the professor.